Facing your fears and anxieties is important for your self-confidence as a leader.
Often, we fear the unknown. We believe that the problems we are facing are bigger than life, bigger than we can handle. Facing your fears and anxieties is important for your self-confidence as a leader. There are methods you can use that can help you turn your anxiety into confidence.
1. Count your blessings
Oprah Winfrey called Maya Angelou one morning, confused and concerned about things that were happening in her life. Angelou’s advice to Oprah: “Count your blessings.” Winfrey reported being surprised by the statement; after all, she was looking for advice and sympathy, not a scolding. But when she concentrated on her blessings, she realized her problems were not so big, compared with what she had. And by counting her blessings, she was also reminding herself of her accomplishments; her courage over fear in the face of danger, and her ability to overcome.
2. Lead by example
“What a leader does for followers is to turn anxiety into confidence.” –Marcus Buckingham (best-selling author and motivational speaker)
Those in command have generally learned that workers will follow by example. When you are able to put on a brave face and make decisions despite your apprehensions, you learn to trust your gut and have more confidence in your innate abilities. You pass that confidence onto those who depend on your decisions.
According to Buckingham, demonstrating courage (as a leader) “fosters trust and sets a crucial example for others to follow at a time when they’d rather hunker down and wait for the storm to pass.”
3. Help others
Nothing gives more satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment than helping others. If you can show someone a way to solve a problem through mentoring or volunteering, you feel more confident in your own abilities. At work, you can help guide and assist rather than demean and tease. The same is true for your friends and family. Volunteering in places where there are people needing a hand can help you appreciate the frailness of life, again reminding you to count your blessings.
HelpGuide.org states that among the many benefits of volunteering are better social and relational skills, more happiness, and even valuable job skills, all dynamics of a more confident person.
4. Turn anxiety into positive energy
According to Zenhabits.net, “Multitasking is out.” It’s time to realize that you only increase your anxiety when you think you’re completing several tasks at once. Completing one task at a time gives you a feeling of confidence and knocks out the stress one project at a time.
Alicia Clark, PsyD, PLLC, suggests looking at anxiety and confidence as if they’re on opposite ends of a scale and turning that anxiety into energy (with practice). “Transform a negative into a positive, by recognizing that anxiety–when harnessed for action–can build self-confidence.”
Having advice and backing from those who have been there can help you reach inside and pull out a healthy dose of your own internal confidence.
Note: This article was originally posted on Inc.com
Rhett Power is Best-Selling Author, Executive Coach, Columnist at Forbes, Inc. & Success. Rhett Power co-founded Wild Creations in 2007 and quickly built the startup toy company into the 2010 Fastest Growing Business in South Carolina. Wild Creations was named a Blue Ribbon Top 75 US Company by the US Chamber of Commerce and named as one of Inc. Magazine’s 500 Fastest Growing US Companies two years in a row. He and his team have won over 40 national awards for their innovative toys. He served in the US Peace Corps and is a graduate of the University of South Carolina. He now has a rapidly growing coaching and consulting practice based in Washington DC.